I don’t know exactly when the word “Affluenza” (not to be confused with “Bieber Fever”) made it into the dictionary, but I’m over at Bub Hub today talking about it and how it is infecting us. It can be easy to give in to our kids’ demands in the name of a quiet life. We amble down the path of least resistance, believing that they will be happiest if they have everything their hearts desire. Happiness is never a guarantee but it’s not a magic ingredient in an X-box either.
I’m no hard arse, and I think it’s about a healthy balance—allowing your kids to have what they want some of the time and letting them hear the word “No” to teach them the value of resilience, self-regulation and impulse control. It’s hard to push back, particularly living in an ostensibly materialistic, consumerist culture, but if we give in to our kids “wantiness” all the time, what lessons are we teaching them? That the world owes them something? That their skewed sense of entitlement is justified? That they can be a tripped-out, bare-chested doofus and still have 48.9 million Twitter followers? Wait, don’t answer that.
It is the paradox of the Affluenza condition that we, as parents, think we are making our kids happy by giving them everything, when we are doing quite the opposite by not facilitating a healthy sense of resilience and independence.
What do you think? Do you see it in your day to day? What are your experiences of the cult of giving kids what they want all the time?
Link to the full Bub Hub article:
The real reason we shouldn’t give kids what they want all the time.